Loneliness in the Age of Constant Connection
A 60-minute session on feeling alone while the phone never stops buzzing: group chats, blue ticks, reels, Sunday video calls home, and friendships that fade without a single fight. Is all this connection keeping us close, or keeping us from getting close? Twelve independent cards; open three or four.
The opening question
When you've had a bad day, what do you actually do first: call someone, text someone, scroll your phone, or go quiet on your own?
Everyone in the room answers this in one line before any card is opened. Write the answers down; you will come back to them.
The cards
12 ways into the topic
Each card is independent. Your group votes on which to open, and four or five is plenty for an hour. Behind every card sit three prompts, one at a time, that only appear once it is opened on the board. Unopened cards keep for next time.
- 1
Friends Only In The Group Chat
Your college group chat buzzes every day. Memes, birthday wishes, jokes. But you haven't actually met most of those people in two years.
- 2
Calling Without Warning
Your phone rings. It's not a text, it's an actual call, and nobody warned you. Your heart jumps. Your parents can't understand why.
- 3
Always Reaching Out First
You're always the one who texts first. You plan the meet-ups and remember the birthdays. One day you wonder: if I stopped, would anyone notice?
- 4
Seen But No Reply
You send a message. Two blue ticks. Then nothing. An hour later, you see them post a story.
- 5
Sending Reels As Friendship
You haven't spoken to your best friend in weeks. But every day, you send each other funny reels. You both laugh. Neither of you types a word.
- 6
Lonely In A New City
You moved to a new city for a good job. Weekdays are fine, because work keeps you busy.
- 7
Parents Who Live Alone
The house they built is very quiet now.
- 8
Telling Things To A Chatbot
It's 2 am and you can't sleep. You don't want to wake anyone, so you type your worries to an AI chatbot.
- 9
Friends After Marriage
You and your best friend used to talk every day. Then one of you got married, and then came a baby. Now you speak on birthdays.
- 10
Men And Their Friendships
A group of men meet every week. They talk about cricket, cars, work and money. One of them has been going through something terrible for months.
- 11
Phones At The Dinner Table
Your whole family sits down for dinner. Everyone is there. And everyone is looking at their phone.
- 12
Being Alone Isn't Being Lonely
It's Saturday night. You've chosen to stay in, with food you like and a show you love. Your phone buzzes: “Why are you sitting at home alone?”
The line to leave with
Who is the person you'd call if something went wrong tonight, and when did you last call them when nothing was wrong?
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